SeeBass Posted February 8, 2018 Author Share Posted February 8, 2018 How you mean Tyrant?? I'm staying single for the rest of my life. Just hate to think she was pretending to care when going through worst time of my life. Doesn't sit pretty with me that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
donsdaft Posted February 8, 2018 Share Posted February 8, 2018 Man in "I'll never understand women" shocker. I wouldn't even try min, you're never going to manage. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rocket_scientist Posted February 8, 2018 Share Posted February 8, 2018 Man in "I'll never understand women" shocker. I wouldn't even try min, you're never going to manage. Having daughters gives us a position of absolute certainty. Men will never fully understand women and vice versa. It's hormones. It's brain-construction. It's genes. Love them. Can't fathom them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barcosente Posted February 8, 2018 Share Posted February 8, 2018 I'm trying to figure out whether a girl who is married and has two children was ever my true friend in the first place as she's not been around for just over a year now. She got quite nasty with yours truly for sharing good news that DWP had decided to give me an extra £45 a week to look after myself based on losing one's Mam's practical help being disabled from birth like I am. Thought I was rubbing things in her face!! I'd travelled thirty miles on a bus to see her. Said my piece at the time which was at her work in a betting shop. Reported us to her boss. I kinda got told off by him but ain't seen or spoken with her since. We were SO CLOSE after my Mam died as a result of the secondary Brain cancer and she more than anybody helped me through our heartache. So conflicted because doesn't even answer a text message at Christmas or on her Birthday now. We had words over her husband coming to a shopping trip to Metro Centre the day before we were going as she'd not even mentioned it. Point was I'd waited EIGHT MONTHS for this day out as never really got chance to spend any quality time with her in bookies as it was. Stupidly in a text told her I loved the lass but people say silly things at the wrong time and only probably spouted above declaration as wanted her attention to the problem we were going through at time. Seemed to get over this after she lost a baby five months through gestation period but again find ourselves gone over a year without contact hence don't know what to make of it all anymore. We bought her a couple of paranormal romance books and Map Scarves of Rome and Paris (two places she'd like to go before dying) as a way of repaying the favour she did when Mam passed. She wrote me a wee note on some old newspaper thanking one for the presents and here was something in return but wasn't to open it until I got home. She'd bought me a No Fear rucksack. I had folk that went into bookies tell me she was only doing what she was doing when my Mam died to make herself look good in front of other people. I'd be gutted if there was any truth to this theory. She would send me text messages at half past two in the morning telling SeeBass she was going to get a glass of water from the kitchen and was for a ten month timespan sending us postcards through letterbox but claiming I had a stalker and she knew nothing of what I was talking about. Some of the messages were quite deep in our opinion. 17th Century Poetry on me losing four and a half grand at the bookies on two year anniversary of Mam's death. Even took over texting me at Aberdeen matches from my Mam. You know had I got there OK, what was the game like, what was I having for dinner at the hotel that sort of thing. Really miss all that small stuff with her. I adored this girl like you'll never believe but would be heartbroken if it had been fake all along. I thought she would provide me with an alternative relationship to the one I had with Mam. Different but one that would sustain me and I could relish in for life. Hey there Seabass. Sorry to hear that you feel that you may have lost a friend. Reading between the lines it sounds like you may have feelings for this lady that may be stronger than just friendship. I might be wrong about that, but ask yourself honestly if this is the case and deal with it if that is so. If that is the case, then leave alone. As we pass through life, friends come and go in one form or another. We take what we can from these friendships and if we are lucky, some last a lifetime. A lot do not. "It's life Jim but not as we know it" Again, reading between the lines she may have been sending mixed signals that you misinterpreted or misunderstood. As others have alluded to here, women are impossible for the male species to fully understand. I have 2 daughters and 4 great grand daughters and at times I've felt like I live on a different planet to them. Back to your original subject about being friends with the opposite sex, In general men and women can be friendly and friends by that. Men by nature are "dogs" and most, given the opportunity would stray if they knew they wouldn't be caught. I have some female friends.....or at least women I can have a coffee or drink with, but if they were single, I'd maybe think differently. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SeeBass Posted February 9, 2018 Author Share Posted February 9, 2018 Barcosente, I'm not saying she has mislead yours truly or given mixed signals but some of her behaviour has made me question what one's motive was. The 17th Century poetry plus text messages at half past two in the morning. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tlg1903 Posted February 9, 2018 Share Posted February 9, 2018 It's entirely possible she's just a bit mental mate. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LA-Don Posted February 9, 2018 Share Posted February 9, 2018 Saw a therapist when I went through a divorce 12 years ago, gave me the best advice. You may never get the answers you want, never get clarity, and always be left wondering. Deal with that, accept it, and move on. Let it/them go. She may have no clue why she did things either so have no answer for you, or she doesn't want to admit why. Regardless, it's on you to let it go and move on. Harsh but true! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SeeBass Posted February 9, 2018 Author Share Posted February 9, 2018 TLG, Your theory has been suggested to me once or twice before. I can't believe she wasn't pleased I am now an extra £45 a week better off because one don't have my Mam's practical help anymore. Not had an apology for being so horrible in the 14 months since it happened which says to me she obviously meant her comment. Not sure I need so called friends like that eh?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rocket_scientist Posted February 10, 2018 Share Posted February 10, 2018 Harsh but true! I don't consider it harsh at all. The truth is just the truth and yes there is harshness in the world. That was excellent advice. Common sense to someone who has studied/studies/is interested in the human condition with the proviso that common sense is not that common. The need to let go works for a couple of reasons at least. We can't allow our mental health to be affected by things we have no control over. Moving on fits with the need to understand and compartmentalise. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tlg1903 Posted February 10, 2018 Share Posted February 10, 2018 I think the best advice I could give on any kind of relationship is simply that if you find that the other person involved is consistently a toxic influence on your life then limit your contact with them as much as feasibly possible. Strike them off as a lost cause and instead of wasting time and energy on them focus it on relationships that you cherish and nurture those instead. Sadly this advice doesn't seem to work with football clubs, I'm looking at you here AFC:laughing: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SeeBass Posted February 10, 2018 Author Share Posted February 10, 2018 It feels as if she's one of these people who think they can say and do as they please without ever accepting responsibility for their actions. I'm particularly disappointed how things have turned out considering that she was there for me at our lowest ebb when Mam died from secondary Brain Cancer after just 56 days. For somebody who is supposed to be my friend I think she has a funny way of showing it. How can you be mates with somebody when the only contact you have with that person is at their place of work?? Don't hate the girl just quite sad we can't even communicate with each other properly. Although not through the lack of trying on my part. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Madbadteacher Posted February 16, 2018 Share Posted February 16, 2018 OK, now I'm more confused than ever. Having been dumped (see earlier) said woman sends a text on Sunday asking if I'd like to go for a meal this week, so we went out last night (Thursday). I'm thinking, well I loaned her 2 books she probably just wants to return them and is being "nice". Nope, no books, very enjoyable time, fair bit of appropriate hand touching etc. Come the end of the meal and it's been made clear she'd like to do this again so I offer to pay with the "well you can pay next time" just to make sure I'm not reading this wrong. Ok says she. How about you come to my house for Chinese take out? OK says the bold MBT. How about tomorrow (Friday/tonight) as neither of us has work on Saturday so we don't have to get up early? OK says a slightly WTF is going on MBT You'll have to accept I'll be in my relaxing comfort joggers and hair tied up mode, but we can eat and watch a film on Netflix Aye sure says a now really what the hell signals am I getting here MBT Why don't you bring a change of clothes so you can relax too? Ok says a now totally what fucking planet am I on as it's abviously one where males aren't supposed to have a clue about anything. Big hugs, walk arm in arm back to her car, few kisses then see you tonmorrow. Does anyone, even women, know WTF goes on in their heads? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rocket_scientist Posted February 16, 2018 Share Posted February 16, 2018 MBT min, you're the problem here. Fuck meaningfulness. Opportunism is all. Thing is, they love a strong man who takes advantage of any positive signal. She's giving out signals. You're being too deep. Fuck her rotten. You'll both win. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
donsdaft Posted February 16, 2018 Share Posted February 16, 2018 Does anyone, even women, know WTF goes on in their heads? Not a fuckin chance. You're off the booze aren't you? Otherwise I would suggest the tried and tested donsdaft method of getting pished and completely fucking the whole thing up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigAl Posted February 16, 2018 Share Posted February 16, 2018 MBT min, you're the problem here. Fuck meaningfulness. Opportunism is all. Thing is, they love a strong man who takes advantage of any positive signal. Exactly what The Rocket says Carpe Diem MBT. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Madbadteacher Posted February 16, 2018 Share Posted February 16, 2018 Aye DD, aff the booze for a while now Al, you want me to fuck a carp? Pervert! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RicoS321 Posted February 16, 2018 Share Posted February 16, 2018 Make sure you get written agreement afore biffing her like, just in case. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
donsdaft Posted February 16, 2018 Share Posted February 16, 2018 MBT min, mentioning fish at the vital moment might turn out to be a mistake. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tlg1903 Posted February 17, 2018 Share Posted February 17, 2018 C'mon MBT, we're all on the edge of our seats. Tell all, are you walking a little lighter today or what? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Madbadteacher Posted February 17, 2018 Share Posted February 17, 2018 A gentleman does not kiss and tell! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tyrant Posted February 22, 2018 Share Posted February 22, 2018 A gentleman does not kiss and tell! I'll fuckin ban ye. Get it telt. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Madbadteacher Posted February 22, 2018 Share Posted February 22, 2018 The situation is ongoing in a positive direction Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
manc_don Posted February 23, 2018 Share Posted February 23, 2018 The situation is ongoing in a positive direction Bravo MBT, pleased for you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rocket_scientist Posted February 23, 2018 Share Posted February 23, 2018 The situation is ongoing in a positive direction This is the advantage of having an online community, particularly a NE Scotland one, to draw upon. When Al mentioned Carpe Diem, I was reminded of Dead Poets Society, one of the first films that the Mrs and I went to see together, well before we married. Ironically featuring the now dead genius talent of Robin Williams. Instinct and following feeling more than rationalisation and understanding, and always having the humility to know that there is much we will never know. This can be difficult for certain professions, scientists and teachers in particular being paid to know stuff. It's only armed with the knowledge that we can't understand it all that we start to see things more clearly. Like women are unfathomable but beautiful and necessary and like wild horses, need much time and love investment before we can ride them properly and get from there to here with greater efficiency. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
donsdaft Posted February 23, 2018 Share Posted February 23, 2018 You were doing a'right there until you mentioned the words women and efficency in the same sentence. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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